Conflicts can be sour;
Conflicts can be bitter.
Cornflakes can be soggy;
Cornflakes can be corny.
I can be corny.
Conflicts are rare;
Conflicts are hard to find,
at least for me.
For the past month, I’ve been in search of conflicts. I made attempts to cause conflicts. If I could, I’d will a conflagration. Maybe conflicts don’t exist. In truth, they do. They are, in fact, in daily abundance. The difference, I am informed, is that I have a finesse to avert imminent conflict.
In March 2015, during our yearly in-camp training, there weren’t enough bunks and beds for everyone. So, my group, four of us scouted around and found ourselves an air-conditioned room with beds and wardrobes. Feeling serendipitous, we claimed it to ourselves for the night.
The next day, we all had to go about completing our obligations. At dusk, we returned to the room, to find our belongings outside the room, and doors locked. Upon inspection, we realised that some of our gear were missing.
In a fit of anger, a comrade started to conclude that this is the lawlessness of the outsourced, foreign laborer that serviced the room.
As it was dark, we could only relocate, freshen up and turn in for the night. However, through the night, our comrade was restless and incessantly accused a man he briefly seen. His angst could be my contribution, I insisted that we could relate to his frustration, as we are all in the same boat. However, it is partial to accuse someone blatantly. I promised to investigate.
At dawn, I searched for the laborer, and inquired about the room and our property. He insisted that he didn’t service the room, and gave me a lead. He suggested I ask the person-in-charge of the rooms. I shuffled through some administrative offices and it finally led me to the mobile number of the quartermaster to call.
I am told that the use of the room was supposed to be locked, and its use prohibited. The quartermaster, emptied the room, with the assumption that these are the properties of users that left a day before our arrival. So, the missing items were looted and taken home. The rest were left outside the room to be cleared by the laborer. The quartermaster insisted that he’ll not be returning the articles as they are no longer in camp. I didn’t pursue the matter.
I explained the situation to our comrade. And that if he still wanted his belongings back, he could contact the quartermaster directly. As much as he wanted his properties back, he didn’t have the resolve to have them returned. His anger simmered by day’s end.
The next day, he insisted that despite the vindication, he’ll continue to blame laborers of the nationality. To cope with his work-stress, it is easier to lay blame to another, particularly another race or another national, just because he believes that he won’t come into proximity with any, anyway. My retort is that, “We all have to grow up someday. For now, you can remain the way you are, for as long as you like, no one is to coerce you otherwise.”
We may have our prejudices, and with it, make quick accusations of others in the fit of anger. Historically, I was guilty of similar acts of prejudice. Not anymore, I hope.
If you were in my situation, how would you react to my comrade’s accusation, and his prejudice towards other race and nationals besides his own?